Adults are bullies too
| Posted: Saturday, Aug 17, 2013 06:00 am
Re: Brian McLeod’s column on bullies.
Getting older is mandatory; growing up is optional.
A teenaged bully will in all likelihood become an adult bully. And will cut and run if challenged just as they did in the playground.
I live in seniors’ assisted living. I'd rather not say which one as the staff has been exemplary and we have enjoyed the sense of safety and security we have living here.
We have had trouble with the refrigerator since we moved in. The first one ran constantly and the second has a door which will not completely close.
A little man who didn't identify himself came and told me the fridge ran because I have too much in the freezer. I have had refrigeration in my home for over 70 years. I know how to care for one. When I told him that, he yelled loudly enough to alert my neighbour.
He said he wasn't going to argue with me, that he was the expert and I am not going to get a replacement fridge. He had been sent to tell me I would be getting a replacement and to apologize for the inconvenience.
I told him I would buy my own and he came toward me and said, “You will not be allowed to bring it into the building.” I think I was supposed to be intimidated.
I said that I had better move then as I am fed up with the refrigerators supplied here. He immediately pushed me aside, came into the apartment, opened the freezer door and took a picture with his cellphone. “There now, we'll see if you get a new one.” And off he marched.
I know it was rude but I burst out laughing. I'm 78. I worked in a psychiatric hospital for the criminally insane. I was a parole supervisor after that. That little man has no chance of bullying me. He is a rank amateur as to acting in a threatening manner.
However, I did report him to the office as other residents thanked me for standing up to him as he had bullied them.
I gave that background to show that Mr. McLeod is right. Bullying is not confined to the young though it is confined to the immature.
Joan Rea, St. Albert